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A Hindu saint who was visiting the river Ganges to take a bath saw a family shouting angrily at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled and asked, “Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?”
His disciples thought for a while, then one of them said, ‘Because when we lose our calm, we shout.’
“But, why should you shout when the other person is next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.” asked the saint. Some disciples offered answers but none satisfied them. Finally the saint explained,
“When two people are angry at each other, their hearts are very distant. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the more they will have to shout to hear each other across that great distance.
What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other, but talk softly because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small…”
The saint continued, “When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, they only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’
He looked at his disciples and said, “So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance you further or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.”
source from: “Why We Shout When In Anger”